10 Things People With Borderline Personality Disorder Want You to Know


Borderline Personality Disorder is quite commonly misunderstood because of a massive lack of awareness. We need to change that. 

Borderline Personality Disorder is often characterized by a pattern of varying feelings, behaviors, and self-image. It affects the way a person thinks and feels about themselves and the people around them. As a result, most people with BPD tend to be more impulsive. They experience episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety; furthermore, they usually have turbulent relations. 

Generally, you can say that their feelings and emotions, whether good or bad, are much more intense than an average person. BPD can be a scary disorder to live with, which is why people with BPD must have supportive and understanding people around them. 

However, unfortunately, BPD is a very stigmatized disorder, and many people who have it, are afraid to speak out; therefore, in today’s post, I am going to tell you about ten things that people with BPD want you to know. So, keep reading to learn more. 

“We are afraid that you will abandon us.”

Even when things are going well, sometimes we fear that you might leave us, and we hate it too. Though this fear may seem irrational to some people, for us, it is genuine. 

We would do anything to stop that from happening, which is why we might come off as clingy or needy sometimes. We understand that this may be overwhelming for you, and it may be difficult for you to empathize with us, but remember that this response stems from a place of fear, which is challenging to live with. 

“Everything is more intense for us.”

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder can be quite intense. It feels as if we are vacillating between extreme emotions, and it can be very exhausting for the people we love and us. 

Whether the situation is good, bad, or otherwise, our reaction may seem exaggerated and out of proportion, but in our minds, it is appropriate. Therefore, please don’t tell us that we are acting funny, and please don’t invalidate our feelings and emotions, considering them as a mood shift or exaggeration. 

All we ask is, please don’t judge us, and give us some time and space to reflect

“We are not manipulative or dangerous.”

Some people still believe that people with BPD can be manipulative or dangerous. This is one of the biggest stigmas surrounding the disorder, and it doesn’t make things any easier for us. 

While this may be the case in a tiny minority of people with BPD, most of us are just struggling with our relationships and self-worth.

So, we want to know that we aren’t dangerous or manipulative; we need a little more love.

“Getting treated is harder than you may think.”

Most people with BPD aren’t able to get quality treatments. This isn’t because they are unwilling, but the treatment of BPD is quite challenging. 

BPD isn’t treated like other mental disorders; there isn’t any medication for it. Instead, it can only be addressed through therapy. Even though there aren’t any drugs for it, certain natural stimulants like cannabis and shrooms can be helpful for temporary relief. Check The Fun Guys to learn more. 

So, what we’re trying to say is that if we aren’t getting better, please don’t be quick to blame us…finding help is challenging enough on its own.

“The emptiness can sometimes be overwhelming.”

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People with BPD are known to be reckless and impulsive, but why is that so? We want you to know that we usually feel that our lives are empty, which leaves us hungry for a sense of meaning and direction. We want to do something, anything to fill this void in our mind. Unfortunately, this can sometimes encourage reckless and self-destructive behavior. 

All we ask is that you give us a little support, rather than putting us down. 

“We don’t have multiple personalities.”

Since BPD is a personality disorder, it is often confused with a dissociative identity disorder. However, that is not the case. Either way, neither of these disorders should be stigmatized. Therefore, all we ask is that you make an effort to increase your awareness about mental health issues. 

“Where don’t deliberately send mixed signals.”

Living with BPD isn’t easy; we want to show others how much we care for them, but our fear of abandonment keeps us second-guessing. This usually results in mixed signals. We can’t even understand our emotions ourselves sometimes, and we imagine it isn’t any easier for you.

“BPD isn’t the only thing bothering us.”

A recent report from the National Institutes of Health states that “people who have BPD, likely have other comorbidities as well. Most of us also have to deal with psychological issues like depression, anxiety disorder, insomnia, and bipolar disorder. 

“We are doing the best we can.”

Though it may not seem like it at times, we don’t want to weigh on the people around us. We want to get better, and we don’t want our emotions, trauma, and lack of self-esteem to dictate our life. 

We want to love like healthy people and not dissociate ourselves out of fear of abandonment. So, we want you to know that whether it is through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or any other form of treatment, we are trying our best, and we hope that you can understand and be supportive. 

“Your love and patience mean a lot to us.”

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While we know that we are struggling with BPD, we also think a lot about how much we appreciate the people who stick around and help us despite our shortcomings and struggles.  Your support and patience mean the world to us, and it is especially appreciated when we are having a difficult time loving ourselves. Though we might not be able to show it sometimes, we understand that supporting us isn’t easy, and the fact that you still stay with us means a lot. 

Therefore, at the end of this post, all we want to say is thank you so much. 


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