So, you found the perfect person for you and you're both madly in love with one another. The only problem? They don't live nearby, and thus, you never get to see them outside of Facetime.
Because of this, you're thinking about moving closer, but you aren't sure if it's a good idea or not. Some of your friends tell you to go for it, but some don't seem as on board with the idea, and you're confused about what you should do.
Well, there are a wide variety of things you need to consider before moving to another state for a relationship. And if you ask yourself the right questions, you can determine whether or not the idea is a good one for you and your situation or not.
In this article, we'll tell you you how you can determine if it's the right time to move for your relationship or not. That way you can make sure both you and your partner don't end up suffering the consequences if things go wrong.
Now then, let's get started!
Are You and Your Partner on the Same Page?
Before you load up a moving truck and drive to another city, it's important to make sure that both you and your partner are on the same. As the old saying goes, communication is key, especially when dealing with major decisions that affect both you and your partner.
Don't be afraid to be blunt with your partner and ask, straight up, if they want you to move or not. You may be surprised at their answer, and the last thing you want to do is to move for someone who doesn't want you nearby.
Where Are You Going to Work?
If you're looking at making a major move for your relationship, odds are you're most likely going to need to put in a notice at your current job. This can be a huge deal and should be treated as such, as good jobs aren't easy to come by.
So if you're moving so far away that you're going to need a new job, it's important to make sure you have that new job lined up before moving. At worst, enough money to pay a few month's bills in the bank is a must-have before making any major move.
What Are You Giving Up by Moving?
Again, it's important that you're honest with yourself about every aspect of this move. And one of the tough questions that you need to ask yourself before leaving is what exactly are you giving up by moving and is it worth doing so?
Perhaps you're leaving a good job, or your family, by moving to be with your partner. Maybe you have close friends who you will no longer see as often if you move away. Simply put, you need to make sure you're comfortable making these sacrifices.
Where Are You Going to Live?
One of the biggest things you're going to need to figure out before you move is where exactly you're going to live in your new city. Of course, living with your partner makes a lot of sense, but that can be problematic, especially if you've never lived together before.
Also, you need to make sure your partner is 100% comfortable with you living with them before you make the big move.
Getting a place to stay without a job lined up can be hard, too, which again, is why it's important to plan for these things before moving. The last thing you want to do is move there and then have to move right back because you both weren't ready for this step yet.
Do You Enjoy the City?
We've touched on this briefly already, but again, you need to make sure that if you're moving you're not just moving for your partner. There need to be more positives involved than being a bit closer to the person you love.
One of the biggest pluses to moving away is moving to a city that you enjoy. This is especially true if you're currently unhappy in the city you live in. If this is the case, then that's another reason to be in favor of the move.
But maybe you're on the opposite end of the spectrum, and your partner lives in a town you don't enjoy. Perhaps it's cold there, and you don't want to deal with the change in weather. That could mean moving to that town might not be the best idea.
Again, if it's only your partner that you're moving for, it might not be a wise idea to make a life change of that size.
What’s Your Worst-Case Scenario?
Last but not least, it's important to plan for your worst-case scenario so you aren't caught off guard by anything. Of course, that's never fun to do, but you need to do it in order to protect yourself and your assets.
You may find that the worst-case scenario is so severe that the risks of moving may not be worth it. Or you may find that moving isn't as big of a risk as you thought, especially if you have a good job and home that you can come back to if it doesn't work out it.
Regardless, it's something you need to think about before packing any bags. Speaking of packing bags, when it comes time to do so, consider getting movers. They can make the process much easier and you can see how here.
Moving to Another State for a Relationship
Well, there you have it! That is a basic guideline that you can follow to determine whether or not moving to another state for a relationship is a good idea.
As you can see, being honest with yourself and your partner is key. Making sure that you're protected, and aren't going to be in trouble if things go badly is important, too.
Remember, it's your life, so if you decide it's what you want to do, go for it! Just make sure you and your assets are protected so you don't end up with a problem that takes years to correct.
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