Romantic relationships are probably the most exciting yet difficult types of human interaction. Developing love and passion for someone else is a natural process that every student is likely to experience at one point or another.
While many students fall in love, there are only so few who know how to manage their intense feelings properly. Relationships start, and they end. They start again, and they end again. No human relationship stays fixed, as the individuals who happen to be together are constantly changing their mindsets, personalities, and living standards.
Maintaining a healthy relationship in which both partners feel appreciated, respected, and understood is one of the most common struggles not just among students, but also among adults.
The fact of the matter is that we all have different definitions of what an ideal romantic relationship should look like. The first key to developing a successful relationship with your partner is to define what you want and expect from each other. Secondly, you should figure out what your partner desires. Transparent communication is one of the highest traits of a healthy relationship.
In today’s article, I’m going to share the five most important relationship advice that students should follow to develop and nurture amazing romantic relationships.
If you love your partner in a certain way, you shouldn’t expect him/her to love you exactly in the same way. Why? Because that’s not possible. We’re all wired differently. We perceive the world around us through different lenses, including our romantic partners.
Your partner might be the opposite of you. So what? That is one of the good reasons why your relationship can bring you a lot of benefits. Instead of fighting the differences that you notice, start learning from them.
As a student, you’re probably at the “beginning of your love career.” Try to realize that everyone’s different and do your best to ditch your expectations.
Being part of a team of professional speech writers taught me that speaking is way less important than listening, especially in relationships.
When your partner speaks to you, he or she is trying to send you a message. If you’re not properly listening, meaning that you’re only half-listening, the communication between you two is inefficient. When there’s no proper communication, relationships eventually sink.
Make a habit of giving your partner your unconditional attention while he or she is speaking. Try to see the message behind the words and do your best to understand their feelings.
Spend Quality Time Together
What does quality time mean? It’s different for every relationship. You and your partner must discover and define what type of activities that allow you to experience great moments. Some couples find a lot of pleasure in watching movies every week; others like to travel.
Find a balance between your personal and academic life and do your best to make the best out of your time together. Help your partner understand that your relationship may end for various reasons and that focusing on the present moment is all you can do to create amazing memories that will last for a lifetime.
Learn to compromise. In a healthy relationship, partners must sometimes sacrifice their needs for the desires of their partner. Of course, compromising becomes unhealthy when there’s no balance. For example, if your partner starts taking advantage of your compromises, you should immediately stop doing it and communicate your concerns.
Nevertheless, to compromise means to become emphatic and compassionate in such a way that you no longer feel that you’re doing your partner a favor. Talk with your partner about compromise and try to find common ground.
Learn to Trust
Trusting your partner is crucial, not just for your well-being but also for your relationship’s stability. If you’re insecure, jealous, and possessive, you’re only going to drive your partner away. Insecurity often arises because people don’t have enough self-confidence and self-esteem.
Learning to trust your romantic partner is hard because the possibility of losing him/her generates fear. When you’re dealing with fear, love turns into attachment and obsession. Understand that you cannot control what your partner is feeling or doing (especially if you’re studying abroad) and that your best chance of experiencing a successful love-story is to learn how to trust.
If it makes it easier, compare trust to faith. Most people have faith in God even though they haven’t received any palpable signs. Uncertainty is part of every relationship, and you need to embrace it.
There’s a lot of theory on how to have a healthy relationship. Nevertheless, you need to start practicing everything you read and witness the results on your own. Each relationship is unique, and you should value every moment that you spend with your partner.
Since everything in life is temporary, your feelings and relationship status are likely to change without your control. Learn to go with the flow while striving to do your best in every situation. Take today’s relationship tips into close consideration and start shaping your relationship mindset and habits right away!
BIO: Joshua Robinson is a passionate academic tutor who is constantly fighting to create equal rights among students. His job involves counseling minority students who are having trouble adapting to their academic environment. Besides that, he’s also involved in several non-profit organizations that focus on developing better relationships among college students.