Although we would like to think otherwise, there is never exactly a perfect time to have kids. There will always be something that makes it difficult from chasing that promotion to buying a new house that will make you want to hold off, so you do just have to take the plunge at some point. That being said, it is possible to choose a time that is a bit more optimum, so that life is a little easier and you don’t end up regretting your decision.
So, without further ado, check out these signs that you’re ready to be parents, and when most of them have aligned in your life, well it might just be time to take the plunge into parenthood:
You’ve Made Good Progress with Your Bucket List
Although it’s perfectly possible to live an adventurous life with a baby, it’s a lot easier to travel the world, skydive, build your dream business, etc., before you have children because, at least int he early years, you’re going to be spending far more time at home and most of your resources will be going towards bringing up your baby too. So, tick off as many bucket list items as you can beforehand, and you won’t feel like you’re missing out by becoming a parent when the time comes to do so.
Your Life is Pretty Settled
Bringing a baby into a life of chaos is never a good idea. Babies thrive on being in settled environments where they can feel safe and loved at all times. Not only that but having a baby isn’t going to suddenly stop those fights you and your spouse are having or ensure that you stop drinking too much – it will just make it much harder to deal with those things. So, wait until your settled and ensure that your first years of parenthood are as idyllic as they can possibly be.
You Like Being Around Kids
You’ll never love anyone else’s kids as much as you love your own, and being around your own children is far different from being around other people’s, so you don’t exactly have to love being around children if you want to have kids yourself, but you should at least feel comfortable around them and like spending some time with them if you want to have a baby of your own. If you find kids annoying, to say the least, and you do what you can to avoid being around them, you’re unlikely to be the perfect candidate for parenthood at this time, anyway.
You’re Willing to Do What it Takes
As you can see at the ConceiveAbilities Blog, getting pregnant and becoming a parent is not always a smooth ride and it can be physically, emotionally and financially draining a lot of the time. If you aren’t 100 percent willing to do what it takes to get pregnant, have a baby and be a parent it’s a pretty clear sign that you aren’t ready to do so just yet.
You Can Put Others’ needs Before Your Own
If you’re the kind of person who is always thinking of others and who does not worry one bit about putting others’ needs before your own when the situation calls for it, it’s a pretty good sign that you’re ready for parenthood. After all, a lot of what parenting is about is sacrifice; sacrificing your time to look after your baby; sacrificing your money to provide for your baby; sacrificing your body to bring your baby into the world and so on. If that doesn’t sound too difficult to you, you’re on the right track.
You’re Ready to Settle Down
I might have left this until the end, but honestly, it’s a biggie. Although there are lots of great single parents out there doing an excellent job, there is no denying that it’s easier to be a parent when you have a spouse to do it with. Having backup makes the whole process so much less stressful than it would otherwise be and the more people who your baby has to love them, the better it will be for them too. So, if you’re in a stable relationship and you’re more than ready to settle down, maybe get married, and completely commit yourself to your spouse and any little ones who come along the better.
Be honest with yourself, see how many of the boxes you tick, and only then should you think about becoming a parent if you want to ace it from that positive test until they leave for college.